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Today, 08:19 AM
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| Member ?Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 284 | So my wife and I were clearing out an area of the house and came across an old box of mine. It was something I had thrown a lot of old high school and college stuff in indiscriminately. It had my year book, varsity letters, letters from my parents but also love letters from a couple girlfriends at the time. My wife asked me why I kept the old love letters. My honest answer was because I didn't focus on throwing them out. What I mean is when i was moving out of my parents house many years ago, I just threw stuff in a box labeled mementos and then the box just got moved from house to house without really looking at it. I haven't even opened the box in over 10 years. I'm torn about throwing them out. I don't think my wife cares, but I didn't ask her either. Part of me doesn't see a point in keeping them, but also there's part of me that likes the memories. Does anyone else keep things or not. Is there a difference between the letter from your parents your first week in college versus the "pointless" I love you letter from your girlfriend/boyfriend (pointless as in, one of many that you received over time)? Curious about other peoples thoughts. PS I think my wife would "like" me to throw some of it out (the ex thing) but I also think that if it was actually important to me, she'd completely accept it because she knows I'm not hung up on any previous relationships, it's just old mementos. She's not nostalgic and I can be a little bit.
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Today, 08:44 AM
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| Member ?Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 479 | Ex found pics of my first wife and one of the girlfriends I had between marriages. To be perfectly honest, I kept them because they were sentimental and I told her that. Did I want to go start a new relationship with them? NO. I am kind of sentimental at times and like to stop and look at things. This might not be so good for me. This may be just the opposite of what my ex would do. I don't know. When I asked, she just said, "I don't think you should have them if they don't mean anything to you." Come on now. If I was married to someone and had children with her. Doesn't she mean, something? She doesn't mean the world! My second wife meant the world! However, these others did mean something. In the search for the right mate for me, I came pretty close one time. I saved her pic. Did she mean something to me? Yes. Did she mean the world to me? NO! That is why I married YOU and NOT HER! YOU meant THE WORLD to me! Did I save them for the opportunity to hurt her? NO, NO, NO! Wow, sometimes I get the same way. Convinced that anything can be true. I can't step back and realize someone is projecting. Sometimes my own failings get in the way. It's too bad. Peace to you. |
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